Thursday, February 11, 2010

Missing my midwife

I know it's silly, but I am missing her a lot. I really enjoyed our meetings and liked her. It was so nice to get to talk to someone in person who you connected with, and agreed with in so many ways. Especially since for the most part I'm an oddball according to society!

She was a great midwife. Her confidence and faith in me and my body to birth really helped me have the confidence as well. Always feel so peaceful after speaking with her.


Judy said...

Can I ask who your midwife was? I loved my midwives with both of my boys, but I really appreciated the ones I had with my second son. I understand totally. I recommend midwifery care to anyone eligible for it!

Katherine T. Lauer said...

Julie: I had this exact same experience after I gave birth. I really, really missed my home birth midwife! I found I had to email her and my doula every so often at first, maybe even once a week, to wean myself off of their friendship. I still email them with milestones of my kids.

I remember after giving birth the first time in a yucky hospital but with an amazing doula, I later was chatting with my doula and heard her mention the next birth she had gone to a week later or so. I remember feeling outright BETRAYED that she could ever go to another birth again and share that intimacy with someone else. Isn't that ridiculous? Even in the moment, I knew my emotions were ridiculous, but that's how I felt. I felt she and I were so intimate and close because we had shared that experience.

Women in the birthing industry have such a special vocation!